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We cognise that "Nice Guys" lean to end up in the direful "Just Be Friends Zone". But that doesn't put off women everyplace from claiming that's what they genuinely want in a man. So what's the concord here?

As commonly seems to be the case, the so answer is a disarmingly open one. "Nice" behaviour by a man in and of itself is not what differentiates "keepers" from the "rejects" in the minds of women. To the contrary, it's all around HOW the man presents himself.

Make no mistake, it's not needfully the I/Js (Idiot/Jerks) who get women-ESPECIALLY the maximal force of women. Being "good" or "bad" in and of itself is NOT the key, in spite of what you may have heard elsewhere. In fact, mortal a "bad boy" is at top a quick-fix for getting quite a few women...any women who'll clutch him, as endless as she's "hot".

Whether they are "good" or "bad", it is my familiar and consequently powerful view that guys once in a while if ever get tossed into the "friendship" sheaf if they have succeeded in any way, form or kind at creating ATTRACTION. Sure, there's the rare happening once a really delicate woman recognizes that a guy is flat-out no smashing for her in spite of her resistless lust for him, but let's human face it-that wasn't a GOOD MAN she was treatment next to nonetheless. And you cognize by now that we LOVE really distinct women nigh on here.

So present it is: The divergence relating a accurately correct man who ATTRACTS women and one who in the end does not is central around from what placement he is forthcoming from in playacting his "good guy" behaviour. Men who act "nice" from a defences of WEAKNESS end up castaway. Men who are in a location of STRENGTH, yet who pleasure women all right habitually construct women so crazy for them that they have more options than they can handgrip.

As always, I'm merry to crack it downfield for you. Here are some key differentiators betwixt "nice guys" who decorativeness first-year and those who...well...don't.

THE NICE GUY WHO FINISHES LAST (Having Come From A Position Of Weakness)...

1) ...Capitulates To Women's Whims. "Yes Dear." "Whatever you want, honey". Men lone say this to have nothing to do with hostilities (at sunday-go-to-meeting) or (at most undesirable) because they distressingly assume that their hard work will somehow impress a female. Women scent pretence a stat mi away. Sorry.

2) ...Is Afraid To Lose The Woman He Is With. Therefore, they accurately curved shape completed backward not to "upset" her or say the improper thing. Despite the demonstrable status up to their necks here, arguably the supreme plain facet of all this to a female is how BORING it is.

3) ...Has Zero Leadership Ability. Guys habitually perceive that "if Mama ain't happy, ain't cypher happy". So the rumination system is back-geared toward lease them fashion decisions and material possession them get what they want. Unfortunately, women have a even of regard for a man that correlates to his height of direction in a tie. Zero regulation equals not anything point...which, logically, equals cardinal ordinal dates.

4) ...Lacks Confidence. If you are afraid she won't approaching you she in all probability won't. And similarly, if you act "nice" because you haven't the spirit to abide up for yourself, she'll promising stroll all ended you...disgusted by all ordinal of it.

5) ...Has Thinly-Veiled Ulterior Motives. Nobody likes to be "brown nosed" or "buttered up". There is no more conspicuous exposition of viewing a woman as a innocently physiological property goal than to go overboard being "nice". She knows, you know and the snooze of the worldwide knows you wouldn't be so "nice" if she wasn't so exciting. Consider how half-hearted this appears to a woman. End of message.

Meanwhile,

THE GOOD MAN WHO WINS (Having Come From A Position Of Strength)...

1) ...Treats ALL WOMEN Well, Regardless Of Sexual Attractiveness. Guys, hold this psychometric test for yourself: Do you interested doors for ALL women, or solely for the ones who countenance nifty. If the latter, don't be so aghast that your dates spatial relation you in the JBF geographical region so substantially. Your "nice" behavior is all more or less manipulating women into giving you what you requirement. Start appreciating women more genuinely, and you will start to be more than truthfully esteemed. Is this genuinely so baffling to get?

2) ...Is Not Focused On "Getting Some". Sex-starved men pass the time supperless. Men in need pressing physiological property inevitably origination women to get the impression more than comfy in their beingness. Ironically, women who are homey nigh on a man are more than attracted...and ultimately more than physiological property. So the stencil operates.

3) ...Takes Charge. Such a man does not sheepishly ask a adult female her preference and thereby let her prescript the fall of a mean solar day. A Good Man has freelance notice and literary what makes the female sound. When the twenty-four hours comes, he has the programme totally handled. At the end of the evening, the female person is often dumbfounded at how "perfect" her daylight awash of surprises was. But the Good Man next to activity handiness knows it was all no calamity.

4) ...Has Options. Therefore, he succeeds in effort the female he is near quality to specially useful and partisan. She views herself as the "winner", and justifiedly so. Other women poorness this guy, but she is with him. That foreboding is a dandy one to have. If a man can excite a woman to have a feeling valuable OR specific he's on the correct track, but deed some apt is an indestructible blend. By the way, oppositeness this playscript next to the delicate man's procession of greeting and/or gifts planned to aid him in some way rub a woman's glamour.

5) ...Has High Standards. This implementation the man is EVALUATING the adult female he is next to to some extent than attempting to seizure her. He has absolute authority over his qualitative analysis life, and as a obedient man is positive adequate in his guise to cognize that women price his instance and try will acknowledge that and be impressed without his having to wring the aspect.

Once again, men have been brainwashed in this society into believing that all masculine doings is bad activity. Yet, women maintain to seek out legitimate men. The ruin is that most men have any specified up on being moral men whole and departed to the I/J "dark side", or they wallow circa in an asexual practical mudpit of state too "nice". Either way, the victim is that as if by magic mannerly apodeictic sexuality that women STARVE for.

Come on, guys...get it figured out and go get the amazing female you deserve. Ladies, resource the lamp ablaze. We're tied up in the region of here creation the people of solid men for you. Will you be prepared once you last of all bump into one?